Internet Dating.
I've been putting off this post for a cold minute because I kept wavering as to whether or not I'd jump on the internet dating bandwagon. At a friend's wedding in the fall of 2009, her mom kept yapping that I needed to get on Match.com. Match, Match, Match, seemed like every time I saw her, she was telling me how wonderful Match was! But I didn't heed her advice. I figured I'd see what happened with the remainder of grad school. Well grad school came and went and nothing really happened.
And then I moved to a new city and a friend and I made a pact that we'd get our dating life in order and go on 3 dates each between July and December. And then, December came and we both chalked up our ZERO dates each to still being in a new place, not knowing many people, trying to focus on learning our jobs, making friends, etc. Excuses, excuses. So I gave myself a new year's commitment that I'd get on a dating site to at a minimum MEET OTHER PEOPLE. If I could just meet some new people, then maybe it'd lead to some dates.
So in early January, I was pseudo set up by a friend with a coworker of hers. Bust. no chemistry, no interest, no thank you. And after finally dragging my feet for the umpteenth time, I joined a site. A free one. And no, not Match. I decided if I was going to jump into the internet dating pool, I'd start in the shallow end with a free site before I dove straight into the deep end and invested in Match. So I signed on, uploaded a few photos, filled out the ridiculous profile, answered some loony tunes questions so the site could "match" me and waited.
Within 5 minutes, I had someone chatting me. No thanks. Within an hour, I received my first message. No thanks. And over the course of the last month, I've received about a dozen messages from unattractive suitors. Some seem normal but just not my type and others have been downright WEIRDOS. Ugh! I thought about throwing in my towel but I realized I'd made NO EFFORT whatsoever to message anyone I thought was cute or had an interesting profile. Not. one. attempt. And I figured if I was waiting for someone down to earth to talk to me, they might be doing the same thing. And well, that's not going to get me anywhere!
So tonight, I sent my first message. To someone who shares a similar outlook on life, is attractive, 27, and working in education. Perhaps he will write back, perhaps not. But at least I've begun to take some baby steps away from the side of the pool.
Cheers.
And then I moved to a new city and a friend and I made a pact that we'd get our dating life in order and go on 3 dates each between July and December. And then, December came and we both chalked up our ZERO dates each to still being in a new place, not knowing many people, trying to focus on learning our jobs, making friends, etc. Excuses, excuses. So I gave myself a new year's commitment that I'd get on a dating site to at a minimum MEET OTHER PEOPLE. If I could just meet some new people, then maybe it'd lead to some dates.
So in early January, I was pseudo set up by a friend with a coworker of hers. Bust. no chemistry, no interest, no thank you. And after finally dragging my feet for the umpteenth time, I joined a site. A free one. And no, not Match. I decided if I was going to jump into the internet dating pool, I'd start in the shallow end with a free site before I dove straight into the deep end and invested in Match. So I signed on, uploaded a few photos, filled out the ridiculous profile, answered some loony tunes questions so the site could "match" me and waited.
Within 5 minutes, I had someone chatting me. No thanks. Within an hour, I received my first message. No thanks. And over the course of the last month, I've received about a dozen messages from unattractive suitors. Some seem normal but just not my type and others have been downright WEIRDOS. Ugh! I thought about throwing in my towel but I realized I'd made NO EFFORT whatsoever to message anyone I thought was cute or had an interesting profile. Not. one. attempt. And I figured if I was waiting for someone down to earth to talk to me, they might be doing the same thing. And well, that's not going to get me anywhere!
So tonight, I sent my first message. To someone who shares a similar outlook on life, is attractive, 27, and working in education. Perhaps he will write back, perhaps not. But at least I've begun to take some baby steps away from the side of the pool.
Cheers.
Comments
Yay! I'm glad you finally took the plunge. Although, one thing to keep in mind if the free site doesn't end up having some awesome guys - you might look to match just because it's more popular, thus might have a bigger pool of people.
Keep us posted!